"The important thing people need to remember is not slandering me. The important thing is there is a 13-year-old who it seems just disappeared into thin air." Billie Jean Dunn, January, 2011
If I ask someone to name their children, I find that most will name their children in chronological order. Sometimes if a new baby is born, this child is named first.
Order can show priority.
I often ask children, "Who are your friends in school?"
They will name their friends in an order that is important to them, so listen carefully.
a. Some will name kids by order of friendship
b. Some will name the kid that sits closest
c. Some will name the kid who is the bully
d. Some will name the kid one has a 'crush' on...
Recall the fun stories from Christmas where before opening a present from my in-laws, I would slowly read the tag to make sure the kids gave me their full attention:
"To: Heather and Peter, Love Mom and Dad" in which I would then take the gift and let Heather open it and, surprise, surprise, it would be something associated with the kitchen, as she loves to bake.
"To: Peter and Heather, Love Dad and Mom" in which I would then say, "I think I shall open this one!" and the gift would be something more geared to me.
The kids quickly caught on and have learned to listen to order whenever one speaks.
Order is Important.
In job interviews, we ask people to describe their strengths and listen to what is listed first, and what is listed last (with the same asking about their challenges, weaknesses, and so on).
Where someone begins a statement is often the purpose for the statement. In a lengthy list we sometimes see the "best saved for last"; but in a short statement, what is said first is often the priority.
The Expected Versus the Unexpected
Ask yourself what would be most important to you if your 13 year old child was missing?
Would finding her be the most important thing?
Would you even care what people thought of you?
Innocent parents care little for anything other than finding their child, often leaving off care of even eating or sleeping, and must be made to eat by supportive family and friends. They care not for their own lives, and would not, for example, mention a toothache. Everything becomes a shadow that fades because all that matters is what the child is going through, what the child is experiencing and if the child is okay. Nothing else matters. Justin DiPietro was "emotionally incapable" of negotiating with the kidnapper, he said. In other words, his emotional comfort outranked his child's safety. This is the "unexpected" as we expect to hear a parent like Desiree Young (mother of Kyron), who cared for nothing but missing Kyron. Statement Analysis showed that DiPietro had guilty knowledge that Ayla was dead, which is why his brain chose words about his own care: he did not need to worry about her.
Statement Analysis deals with the 'unexpected.'
When Sergio Celis and Becky Celis gave a television interview for their missing 7 year old Isabel, whom they claimed was kidnapped, Statement Analyst Kaaryn Gough gave us a list of "expected" words to be heard during the interview; words such as "kidnap, ransom, money, phone calls..." and so on.
It was unexpected that none of these words appeared in the interview, yet the parents spoke about what they were going through, not what Isabel was. Statement analysis showed that the parents had guilty knowledge that Isabel was dead.
Now take the same lesson to the ongoing case of missing 13 year old, Hailey Dunn.
Statement Analysis has shown:
a. Guilty knowledge within both the victim's mother and the mother's boyfriend
b. Indication from January 2011 that the victim was not missing, but deceased
This is from an article on January 13, 2011, Big country news article: Statement Analysis is in bold type, with the quote in italics, with emphasis added for the lesson.
Setting: Hailey has been missing for just over 2 weeks. Police have not given any indication that she is deceased, but the mother has, linguistically, on The Nancy Grace Show. Police had just released the affidavit in which we learned why the focused upon the mother and boyfriend. http://bigcountryhomepage.com/fulltext/?nxd_id=331027
The affidavit is HERE
After saying there were several "persons of interest" in the disappearance of 13-year-old Hailey Dunn during a Wednesday news conference, law enforcement in Colorado City has now revealed Shawn Adkins to be among them. Adkins is the boyfriend of Hailey Dunn's mother, Billie Dunn.
Affidavits in the case show Billie Dunn and Shawn Adkins failed polygraph exams concerning Hailey's disappearance, held a party after reporting her missing, purchased illegal drugs, and continue to change the stories they're giving to investigators.
Authorities have not said whether Billie Dunn is also a person of interest.
"At this point we have interviewed hundreds of witnesses who have come forward and have followed 250 viable leads," Dean said.
"At this point we have interviewed hundreds of witnesses who have come forward and have followed 250 viable leads," Dean said.
"The important thing people need to remember is not slandering me," said Dunn. "The important thing is there is a 13-year-old who it seems just disappeared into thin air."
Here is the same statement with analysis:
"The important thing people need to remember is not slandering me. The important thing is there is a 13-year-old who it seems just disappeared into thin air."
This statement is rich with content.
1. We note anything said in the negative as important. It takes more effort (more words) to say something in the negative, making it sensitive. Here she gives two statements of what is "the important" thing, with differences.
2. The order shows that "not slandering me" comes before her daughter "disappearing..." This means the priority for the mother is that she not be slandered.
3. Note the differences between the two:
a. Not slandering is "the" important thing that people "need to remember" but
b. "thin air" is not given the same reminder to "people" as the "not slandering me" part of the statement.
This means that more words are dedicated to "not slandering" me than the daughter's disappearance. We have "not slandering me" not only first, but also with more wording, giving it more emphasis.
4. "thin air" If Hailey has disappeared into "thin air" she cannot be found. This is an indication that there is no purpose in searching and may explain, among other reasons, why the mother chose not to search for Hailey, even when Hailey's father, Clint Dunn, showed up at her door and asked her to come search with him.
5. "thin air" is to be without "hope" for Hailey being found. It is most unexpected for a mother to make such a hopeless statement because being in "thin air" means that she is asserting what police did not assert: that there are no clues, and no tracks to follow in her disappearance.
6. Note that it only "seems" to the mother to be in 'thin air' suggesting knowledge that she knows this is not the case.
7. Note that the emphasis upon what people "need" to remember is present about not slandering the mother, but absent about the daughter.
8. Please note that "a" 13 year old disappeared into thin air, not "my" nor "Hailey", which would have been a direct lie, something people attempt to avoid whenever possible. "A 13 year old girl" is generic during what should have been a highly personal setting. It is impossible to imagine anything more personal than a mother and child relationship which was the bedrock of Solomon's wisdom in determining custody of the living child in Scripture.
9. "thin air" does this refer to oxygen deprivation?
10. If the mother was telling the truth about the victim, she would have said, "Hailey disappeared into thin air" had there been no clues nor persons of interest, nor anything for the police to go on. However, it is not the case.
She said it only "seems" like; not that it was. This is yet another example showing how difficult it is for someone to tell a direct lie. It is rare and it is difficult. It causes internal stress and humans avoid stress when they can.
The statement is shocking, but only if one begins the analysis with the assumption that the mother was uninvolved.
A week prior to this statement the mother made repeated past tense references to her daughter, as if dead. "She was number one", she said, quickly correcting herself.
Remains found last month in Scurry county have not yet been identified though sources say that among the remains were evidence suggesting that the remains are those of Hailey Dunn.
...thanks to Boston Lady for the reminder of this quote which is rich in content.
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